If you want to get along well with daddy, consider incorporating these things.
Make him feel really good about himself often because he is an amazing man, he deserves it. We all need to be reminded of how awesome we are from time to time. Daddy has his negative and critical voices too.
Make good food passionately. He will appreciate being served very much, especially since his whole life is about service to others. He will enjoy feeling incredibly loved and taken care. The love and intention you put into the food you serve him will sprout like a beautiful seed and grow inside his belly, it's tentacles one day will reach back out to embrace you.
Take care of daddy sexually and sensually too. Keep his cock and balls happy and drained in as many ways as possible. Learn how to become very skilled with your hands and be prepared to learn new things about being a highly, erotically embodied person. Learn how to touch him with exquisite care. Have complete presence and reverence for his body and he will purr like a kitten and be putty in your hands. He will tell you what he likes. Learn how to become an expert at giving pleasure and you will be rewarded. He has more than plenty to give when it comes to sex and his erotic energy but he wants to have equal time to receive, and so he should. He doesn't want to always have to be the one to take the lead, to be the pursuer, to be in control. Being the one always in control gets tiring sometimes. He needs to be able to take a break and be lead from time to time. Be willing to explore what this means for you. Be willing to be in your sexual power, to take your pleasure while giving him his.
Always bring your entire sexual self to daddy, no holding back. Be the most daring, creative, fierce, feminine, sexy, slutty self that you can be. He will take great delight at being turned on by you, by your displays of affection, sluttiness, seduction, and by your mind. Have no fear, if he doesn't want it right then or is not in the mood, he will tell you exactly how he feels because....
Daddy is the king of COMMUNICATION!!! Daddy demands a high level of clear, loving, and ever evolving communication that moves beyond the old ways relating that limit us. You may not know at first what this means. You may also think you have some idea of what he is talking about but have not had a relationship where you actually practiced this style of undefended loving and speaking with your mate. Here are some tips...
Be willing to face the hard stuff. Be willing to stand strong and not cave in when things get tough. Be willing to face your own shadows. We are all holding up a mirror for each other to see that which is not readily observable within ourselves and there is no one better at this than daddy. It will not always feel good, but if you can move out of the small self you will see the opportunities for growth that are available. Don't interrupt him, especially when you have asked him to share his feelings or thoughts on a matter or a particularly sensitive subject. This can feel like being defensive even if you are not meaning to be. Doesn't matter. The point is, when you open the space for him to share or when he comes to you needing to be heard, hear him, fully. That means, ALL of what he has to say, leaving lots of room for the spaces in between words. Be comfortable with silence. Ask him questions to bring out more of his sharing, more of his processing until he is totally done, done, done and spent. Until he has exhausted himself and all his emotions. Do not hijack his time by interjecting with anything no matter how important you think it is, by making things all about you, by doing anything but being your most open hearted, fully present and attentive self. If you do you will learn that he will give you more than equal time to do the same. He is so, so good like that. You will be heard and given the same respect and honor and space to share and process your story. And when things go awry as they will, you can talk to him about it because he is a willing participant in the evolution of it all. Be patient, sometimes he needs time and space which may feel like pulling away from you. Give him the space he needs but also make your needs crystal clear about how you would like him to be with you, what you need from him and he will do his best to meet you. Daddy is always fair. Daddy knows what he wants and although he is willing to compromise and negotiate with some things, he isn't willing to settle for others. That is just the way it is. We all want to have our needs and desires met and he is no different.
Daddy is unpredictable. Get ready to be taken by surprise sometimes, just when you least expect it. Daddy will keep you on your toes and guessing about what might be coming next, be ready.
Sex, BDSM and others......You will learn, as least for now, as things always are changing, that daddy likes to love and love deep but he also likes to play. Daddy has a high sex drive and he likes to be able to share that, express it in the world and experience it from and with others. He will need to have space for this in his life too. Daddy is very kinky and has many slick tricks up his sleeve when it comes to BDSM play. Just like him, his kinks and fetishes are evolving too. He is a most devoted and thoughtful Dom. He will take excellent care of you. He will leave you breathless and begging for more but you will may have to pay your dues as his takes his pleasure. If BDSM or non monogamy are new to you, get to know the language and the lay of the land and see if it fits for you.
Be willing to do your own work to grow, learn and evolve as a human being and don't expect him to always be the one to show you. Showing you are interested and motivated by doing your own work means you care are willing to do what it takes to move forward. He will appreciate this.
Calling Daddy on his stuff......Don't be afraid, just find the gentle ways to do so, without blame or shame or throwing your anger at him in ways that are mean or hurtful. Just bring your feelings to him, all of them and lay them on the table to explore. He is more than happy to look at his shadow sides too.
I know I am still learning about my Dearest Daddy as we grow in our relationship together, these are just a few of my observations so far. I am sure there is more to add but this is a pretty good start. Being in relationship with him has not always been easy but it has been more than worth the ride. He is one of the most amazing men I have ever known. It is a deep honor to share my heart space with him and I am very proud to be his dirty little girl.
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